Emotional blindness

Being "Emotionally blind" means that you are unable to understand what other people are feeling. For instance, suppose you are talking about chemistry, a subject matter you are passionate about, to some of your friends. Suppose your friends are actually not interested in what you are saying, but you don't notice it. You cannot see that they are feeling bored of your monologue.

How is emotional blindness created?

1. A newborn child is always innocent. Some religions blame a new born child by theories like re-incarnation or rebirth; but these theories have not yet been proven scientifically.
2. Each child needs care, protection, security, warmth, skin contact, touching, caressing, tenderness, etc.
3. These needs of the child are seldom sufficiently fulfilled; most adults exploit the needs of the child for they own ends. This child abuse has lifelong effects. Society takes the side of the adult and blames the child for what has been done to him/her. The victimization of the child has historically been denied and is still being denied today. This denial has made it possible for society to ignore the devastating effects of the victimization of the child for such a a long time.
4. The child, when betrayed by his/her protectors and society, has no choice but to repress the trauma and to idealize the abuser. Repression leads to mental disorders like neuroses, psychoses, psychosomatic disorders and delinquency. In neuroses, the child's needs are repressed and/or denied; instead feelings of guilt are experienced. In psychoses, the mistreatment is transformed into a disguised illusory version. IN psychosomatic disorders, the pain of mistreatment is felt but the actual origins are concealed. Ub delinquency, the confusion, seduction and mistreatment of childhood are acted out again and again.
5. A therapeutic recovery can be successful only if it is based on uncovering the truth about the patient's childhood, instead of denying that reality.
6. The psychoanalytic theory of "infantile sexuality" is wrong. It actually protects the parent and reinforces society's blindness.
7. Fantasies always serve to conceal or minimize unbearable childhood reality for the sake of child's survival; therefore the so-called invented trauma is a less harmful version of the real, repressed one. The fantasies, expressed in literature, art, fairy tales and dreams; often unconsciously convey early childhood experiences in a symbolic way. This symbolic testimony is tolerated in our culture thanks to society's chronic ignorance of the truth concerning childhood. If the import of these fantasies were understood, they would be rejected.
8. A past crime cannot be undone by our understanding of the perpetrator's blindness and unfulfilled needs. New crimes, however, can be prevented, if the victims begin to see and be aware of what has been done to them.
9. Therefore, the reports of victims will be able to bring about more awareness, consciousness and sense of responsibility in society at large.

For more information, see works of Alice Miller.

Schizophrenia is curable, but not with drugs.

Schizophrenia is a mental problem. Common symptoms include false beliefs, unclear thinking, hearing voices, reduced social engagement and lack of motivation.

Schizophrenia is curable, but it not curable with drugs. Unfortunately, most psychiatrists give drugs to patients; making the problem worst. Schizophrenia is curable with therapy and counseling.

Schizophrenia is wide-spread. Many people suffer from the disease silently, when they don't have to. A documentary "Take these broken wings" explores this problem and recommends solutions. The documentary, of duration 1 hour 15 minutes, can be viewed here.

If you know anyone suffering from Schizophrenia, please pass them this documentary.

Future-proof mobile for networks in India

In mobile network, India uses following bands

 2G: 900MHz, 1800Hz
 3G: 2100MHz
 4G: 850MHz(Band 5), 1800MHz(Band 3), 2300MHz(Band 40)
 In Future following 4G bands will be auctioned:
    700MHz(band 28), 800MHz(Band 20), 2500MHz(Band 41)

To see a list of phones, sorted by price from high to low, that support all current and future bands in India see http://goo.gl/GFre9S

If you purchase one of these phones, you are assured of future compatibility for next few years.

Why BJP will lose in coming state elections?

Four states will go for elections during the next couple of months. I think BJP will lose in almost all of them for the following reasons.

• Excise duty on gold has caused jewelers to go on strike. This is inconvenience to millions.
• Inflation remains high. Even though the price of oil has reduced dramatically, BJP has raised the taxes on oil in India to avoid passing all the benefits to public.
• Budget did not lower taxes. BJP came to power on the agenda of better days, but it released a socialist budget that burdens the middle class.
• Even though, inflation remains high; BJP government continues to lower interest rates.

What is our Society's priority?

On the social media, the popular item for last few days is "Kim Kardashian's partial nude photo".

I have nothing against someone posting a nude photo and others watching the same; but when something as irrelevant as a semi-nude phone is the most important item for most people, then it tells us a lot about our society.
It means most people are hollow. They find the best use of their time is to watch/discuss a semi-nude photo. Most people are not interested in improving themselves, solving some problems, teaching their kids, etc.

The future of most people is bleak. Our society will face lot of hardships in coming years.